I'm a recovering addict, and one of the hardest parts is learning to model myself after healthy people instead of the chaos I knew growing up. I don't have good templates. My parents used substances. My community normalized dysfunction. I have to build new patterns from scratch.
John says: 'Anyone who does what is good is from God.' So if I want to know what's from God, I look at what's good. And I notice it. I study it. I imitate it.
I found a mentor - someone solid, kind, sober for twenty years, genuinely living well. And I started watching how he makes decisions, treats people, manages money, handles conflict. I'm literally learning goodness by imitation.
That's not religious indoctrination. That's how humans actually learn. We imitate what we admire. John gives me permission to be very intentional about that. Not copying slavishly, but studying and integrating. Growing into goodness by spending time around it.
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